Surviving Visitors!
For many of us expats June to September (or anytime of the year for that matter) is the time for prolonged visits from family and friends. How can we best survive and afford all those visitors?
I have to be honest though I think I have some great ideas but am not always very good at seeing them through for one reason or another...
Most of all do not forget to enjoy your guests, family and friends both, and remember life is short. If you have a budget tell people from the outset if they are good friends and family that love you they will understand, if they dont then ....!!
It sounds so simple. But how often do we become so wrapped up in our roles as hosts, tour guides, chauffeurs, housekeepers and chefs that we allow resentment to spoil OUR own enjoyment?
So here are some pointers to help make this time enjoyable for you as well as your guests.
Ask yourself, when you visit your mother country does everyone stop what they are doing finish work and bow to your every whim, I don't think so and so of course they wouldnt expect it from you either. This is your home and you are NOT on holiday.
Set expectations up front.
- If you have only one car suggest they may need to hire one
- if you are working then suggest they may be restricted if they don't or that you can't all fit in the car for one journey and will have to make several
- Suggest trips out for them, without you if you are working or busy some of the time, this way they will know from the outset.
- Suggest what they will need to bring and what there is to do
- if they have an unrealistice idea of what it will be like then you could all be miserable.
- Set some house rules, you could even frame them and make some into a bit of joke to lighten things but get the message over.
- For example you could say that you only cook one meal a day and that lunch time is a free for all and everyone can help themselves or that you only do cooked breakfast at the weekend for example.
- Hopefully guests will share the washing up duties, but dont be afraid to ask, if you dont - resentment will build.
- Plan time out for you, all being together can be a strain for everyone.
- Get them the local time table for the train or direct them to a theme park for the day if you are working or busy.
- Without being selfish focus also on what you want to do. If you have been to that theme park too many times already just say if you go and are miserable then it will be a waste of time and money. If they could go alone you would then be refreshed for the evening when they return and ready to party once more.
- Don't be afraid to express your views.
- Lighten and chill, laughter stimulates the same endorphines as exercise and there may not be many more summers or opportunities and we should grab them whilst we can...